Our sense of who we are is intimately associated with our relationship, both to other people and the contexts that we live. When relationships do not give us what we need, we lose our sense of comfort and confidence about the people that we are.
Working with partners and their interactions within the relationships. Couple therapy aims to help people to mobilise the strength of their relationships so as to make difficult symptoms unnecessary or less problematic. It also aims to provide couples with opportunities to explore different more effective ways of communicating and to be able to talk about difficult issues comfortably.
Making the choice to go to couples counselling can feel like a very big step. It involves admitting that things are not perfect in your partnership, which is often tough to do and scary to admit. And if you are not particularly familiar with what therapy is all about, it can feel mysterious and confusing, not to mention it can involve considerable effort — finding an appropriate provider, figuring out insurance and other financial aspects of the commitment, coming up with a time to fit into everyone’s schedule. Often, the idea of seeing a marriage or couples therapist sits on the back burner, with one or both parties thinking that it may be a good idea, but also feeling unsure of how to proceed — and of whether their specific problems can really be helped.
Some of the ways that couples therapy can work include identifying toxic relationship patterns and helping couples to work on changing these, bringing a new perspective to issues and helping couples to understand each other’s perspectives, finding new ways to resolve conflicts, building trust and improving communication, and providing a safe space for both partners to work through their issues with the support of the empathetic ear of a professional therapist.
Typical of sessions, much of the work you do will take place within the counselling room itself. However, it’s common that the counsellor will ask you to complete ‘homework’ in between sessions. This may be in the form of specific tasks or to discuss a topic together at home.
You will get the chance to talk about these tasks in your next session, discussing any challenges you came up against and how the experience made you both feel.
Whilst couples therapy is ideally suited to couples attending the sessions together, sometimes one partner is reluctant to attend, so you can look to speak to a couples counsellor on your own, to begin with. You might find your partner wants to join you after you’ve had some initial sessions alone and it can be helpful to intersperse couple sessions with individual sessions.
Coming to see a practitioner in any of these situations is a first step in taking control of your situation and working out ways to change it. You can have therapy either with or without the other person. Talking to a therapist helps you to gain awareness on your relationship patterns, your fears and your beliefs. Having a better relationship with yourself is the first step towards relating better to others. Consulting a caring, perceptive and helpful professional assists you to gain self-confidence and helps you to see more options and possibilities in relating. This enables you to make more empowered choices about your relationships or to view your situation from a different perspective.
The practitioner will also view the therapeutic relationship as a tool to help you gain new insights into your relational patterns and as a secure space in which you can explore your issues as well as practising different and more helpful ways of relating and communicating.
We invite you to call in on 0207 118 0407 and speak to a warm and non-judgemental therapist with years of experience working with relationship issues. You may feel overwhelmed by the different treatment options. In which case our care-coordinator will patiently explain them to you in simple language and you will benefit from their many years of experience as they recommend a treatment which they truly feel would suit you best.