Relationships can be our biggest source of comfort as well as our biggest source of challenge. While most of seek out and enjoy closeness with family, friends and colleagues, it is often in these very relationships that we experience difficulties. Indeed it is often those people that we are closest to where we can react very intensely and emotionally. The very people that mean so much to us are also those who can potentially hurt us, or whom we can potentially hurt.
Perhaps you find it difficult to assert yourself with your boss or find accepting criticism from colleagues difficult. Maybe you struggle to control your temper at work or react badly when your boss asks you to do something.
You might wish you had more friends yet struggle to meet people or to feel that they will accept you for who you are. Maybe you feel the need to keep up a front and fear friends would not be interested in you if you showed your true self. Perhaps you find yourself repeating familiar patterns with friends such as arguing. Or you wish to find different types of friends rather than being influenced by a social group that does not hold the same values as you.
You may find yourself estranged from a loved one and want to change this.Maybe you avoid someone or put on a cheerful front when actually there is tension between you. Perhaps you had a past conflict with a loved one and you both wish to reconcile but just don’t know how to do it.
It might be that your romantic relationships often start off wonderfully with a honeymoon period which lasts months, and in some cases years. You then might discover aspects of your partner’s personality or your own behaviour that greatly affect the functioning of the relationship. Often we can end up in repetitive patterns where similar argument themes repeat over and over again which we don’t manage to resolve. You might have reached the point where you are wondering if your relationship issues are resolvable or whether you still want to be with your partner. A repetitive cycle of conflicts is draining and can leave one or both of you feeling alone, unheard, frustrated and despairing. Typical behaviours in difficult relationships are arguments, attacks, withdrawals, passive aggression and lack of sexual desire, amongst others.
Despite numerous dating websites and social events, finding a romantic partner can still be a struggle. Perhaps you meet people but they always seem to be a certain type who is not fully available for a relationship with you. Perhaps things start well but always end up following the same negative pattern. Maybe you have been single for years and your fear that there is something ‘wrong’ with you or that you will be alone forever stops you from trying anymore.
All of these issues are more common than you might imagine and you are certainly not alone. Your therapist will be used to dealing with them and will assist you in resolving them.
Coming to see a practitioner in any of these situations is a first step in taking control of your situation and working out ways to change it. You can have therapy either with or without the other person. Talking to a therapist helps you to gain awareness on your relationship patterns, your fears and your beliefs. Having a better relationship with yourself is the first step towards relating better to others. Consulting a caring, perceptive and helpful professional assists you to gain self-confidence and helps you to see more options and possibilities in relating. This enables you to make more empowered choices about your relationships or to view your situation from a different perspective.
The practitioner will also view the therapeutic relationship as a tool to help you gain new insights into your relational patterns and as a secure space in which you can explore your issues as well as practising different and more helpful ways of relating and communicating.
We invite you to call in on 0207 118 0407 and speak to a warm and non-judgemental therapist with years of experience working with relationship issues. You may feel overwhelmed by the different treatment options. In which case our care-coordinator will patiently explain them to you in simple language and you will benefit from their many years of experience as they recommend a treatment which they truly feel would suit you best.